"曾经沧海难为水"?

爱情道路的名句。

失败后，突然觉得很难会有下一个他。

下一个他，有把握吗?

若有把握，影子怎会挥之不去呢?

这样公平吗?

是真的付出情感?

或是只想找代替品?

很矛盾，不想去思考。

情感太奇妙了，也太复杂了。

是要接受磨炼?

或是只要一个他?

又或者不想再重复蹈次?

一生一个他，足够吗?

一生很多个他，会显得太充足吗?

有太多事，是理不出一个道理的。

选择从此填上休止符，为的是保护。

但，真的能够保护吗?

太哲学了。

小佩佩

依然是朋友?

再见后依然是朋友吗?
电影中，这种情形层出不穷。
可是，现实生活里，是不会出现的。
前几天看了"溏心风暴"，常在心与前任男朋友依然保持朋友关系，真的可以吗?
现实生活中，会接受这种情况吗?
再见亦是朋友，办得到吗?

我支持一位好友的意见，如果还没有发生情感，再见依然是朋友是可以的。
纵使其中一方曾向另一方表白，一段还没开始的情感，双方还是可以成为朋友们，因为没有尴尬的场面会出现。

人的一生中，预算不到有多少份情感，只能凭自己的感觉去走该走的路。

可能有时是为了不想伤害和拒绝表白的一方，就草率地答应了成为其另一半。
一直相处到需要作出分开的决定时，双方已经收到伤害。

可能是面子，也可能是自尊心的作祟，令得双方都不再愿意成为朋友。
双方都会尽量减低碰面的机会。
就像向左走与向右走的道理，不让自己见到对方。
如果碰到对方，双方就形同陌生人，互不相识。

陌生、相识、表白、相爱。。。
是件美好的事。
陌生、相识、表白、相爱、分开、陌生。。。
是件令人伤透心的事。

情感是门学问，需要从中学习。
能吸收者，会处理得恰当。
不能吸收者，就会处理得一团糟，甚至需要出动第三者把情感的事给解决掉。

依然是朋友，需要勇气。
不再是朋友，需要决心。
哪个会比较好呢?

小佩佩

放手的时候

今天听说一位朋友和她拍拖两年的男朋友分手了。
原因我不清楚。
我只晓得最近有个男生追求她。
可能这任男朋友并没有让她觉得有足够的安全感。
相反的，追求她的让她觉得天蹋下来也没什么大不了。
但，一切只是我的猜测。
我希望不是如我所想的。
因为这个原因会让我觉得情感太脆弱了，根本经不起考验。

可是，我很佩服这位朋友，说分手就分手，没有半点犹豫。
也可能她已犹豫了一段时间才作出的决定。

要分手的时候，就得分手。
拖拖拉拉只会让双方觉得更难堪。

情感的伤痕可以让一个人成长，也可以让一个人变得颓废。
选择前者的，会珍惜每段情感。
选择后者的，会反反复复在情感中跌跌撞撞。

情感是没有对与错，只在乎处理方式恰当与否。
该分手时，情感就该放下。
留恋着一段该结束的情感并不好受。

我们应该疼爱自己。
当找对了相处的另一半，就得珍惜。
结束了的情感应该当成一种经验、知识、体验。。。
纵使到最后相伴一生的并不是最爱的，至少可以晓得自己曾经为一端值得珍惜的情感而付出。

这可能看起来对另一半不公平。
但，人生本来就没有什么事是可以达到真真的公平。

分手是为了让大家找到更好的另一半。
分手也是为了大家的未来着想。

该放手时，就得放手。
得勇敢的作出准确的判断。

小佩佩

Arguement(s)

You might hear this before:
"Arguement is a tool to make your relationship last longer and happier..."
Do you agree with this statement?
I don't.
It's simply because arguement is making your relationship at risk.
It's not a tool to prolong a relationship.
I do agree that mild arguement may boost the relationship to a higher level of trust .
However, it may trigger off any unpleasant feeling forthe bobth parties.
Once one party starts to defense him- or herself, no-so-mild arguement will take place.
This will end up with a real arguement which can lead to tragedy.
So, mild arguement play the role as a precursor of a breaking-up.
You can have a try if you are smart in playing with words.
If you are still a novice in boy-girl relationship, you better don't take the chance.
You can practise on this skill for the future when you are having a girl or boy friend.
It's because practice makes perfect.
Do trust me because I saw too many couples have broken up due to arguements in which they share no idea at all.

("v")

Female

My dear friend has at least sensed something strange shown by her beloved friend.
Jealousy.
Is it true that every woman is inborn with the jelousy feeling?
I wonder.
I admit that I'm jealous on others who have better body figure, nicer smile and prettier.
It's just a minimal level of jelousy.
It's not up to envious.
Do you feel that someone wants to make you feel small so that she can have a superior feeling?
I'll only do so if the person has reached my limit of patience and tolerance.
Somehow, some ladies are inborn with the attitude.
They like to make others feeling that they are more superior than anyone else.
It's due to their self-esteem.
They have lower self-esteem.
They want to level up their self-esteem.
Thus, they always look down or say something that usually would make others down.
When you are feeling down due to the speech voiced out, they are succeeded.
They have the superior feeling.
No one else is the world can compete with them.
In fact, they are only making fool of themselves.
So, don't be one of them or the victim of this game.
It's not a proper way of socialising or making friends.
It's an hypocrite's action.
Be a true friend to others.

("v")

女生

很多时候，女生纵使被投诉的脾气很古怪。

在嘻嘻哈哈的谈话中，女生会突然转变面色，把气氛搞的很僵硬。

其实，这件事是能够了解的。

大部分的女生都比较情绪化。

原本还和友人在高谈阔论一些很顺心的事情，心情很开朗的，就因为一个字，又或是一句话，气氛就会变得怪怪的，脾气也跟着一发不可收拾，不只友人遭殃，就连隔壁座的也受到牵连。

大概"城门失火，殃及池鱼"是源自这种情况吧!

是从另一个角度看待这事，女生是非常敏感的生物。

敏感的程度也因人而异。

我也是很敏感的，偶尔会发脾气。

现在比较会掌控自己的情绪，大概是因为曾经当过了大小姐，对于这个角色已经厌倦。

女生要学会掌控自己的情绪，因为情绪管理的恰当，另一半才会幸福。

有时候可以发脾气，但不能太久，因为会惹来别人的反感。

人的一生是个圆圈，又或者称呼为循环。

今天你向某人发脾气，他日某人就会向你发脾气。

就好像一个杀人犯，到了某天，他会受到法律的制裁。

虽然如此，脾气能辩别男生和女生，也有它的用处。

小佩佩

Full Stop

She told me that everything has reached its full stop.
I wonder if she was telling the truth.
Hopefully, it's real.
It's not that I don't want to be happy...
It's just that she should not have this kind of happiness.
It's buiding her happiness on someone's wound.
It's not good.
It may taste sweet but she'd regret one day.
Life is a cycle.
When you do something bad towards an individual, you'll have to pay for it in the future.
This may sound superstitious, but it's true.
I'd experienced it once and it's enough.
I wish that sheis alright with the decision that she has chosen.
I think it's a rational decision.
Babe, enjoy your life as a normal individual.
Buck up...

~("v")~

Temper

I don't have good temper.
Whenever I face with difficulty, I'll throw tantrums to others.
However, I've changed.
I try to learn to manage my emotions.
Still, I'll show my temper when I'm driving.
All kinds of harsh words will be coming out from my mouth (excluding bad words).
Although I'm learning to control and manage my emotions, I can't help myself of expressing my anger when I'm not in the right mood.
All my friends know about my temper, including my Little Xean Xean.
Still, they'll bear with me.
What they usually do is leaving me alone so that no one will get "hurt".
It's amazing to have friends that know how to treat a friend using the right way.
My Little Xean Xean-wise, he won't leave me alone.
It's because he'd be scared that I'll do something harmful to myself.
Thus, he'll accompany me when I'm not inthe right mood.
He did make me feel down sometimes.
So, it's his responsibility to cheer me up.
Still, I prefer him just accompanying me by my side rather than talking to me or asking me the reason of feeling down.
At times, he tries to ask and I only can look at him and show him a long face.
After feeling better, I'll talk to him.
This is the difference between man and woman.
Man is a reasonable creature.
Everything must have a reason behind.
While woman is an emotional creature.
Everything will be dealing with mood.

~("v")~